A Powerful TEDTalk - Especially for Teens

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This is a powerful video that dissects the dysfunctional aspects of pornography.  And, how porn creates emotionally unsafe sex in the viewer.  

The message also brings to light the inhumanity that a viewer of porn subjects themselves to as well as the person(s) they are watching.  Definitely an authentic message coming from someone who has served the sex worker population.  

WARNING: Graphic descriptions (NSFW)

WHY I STOPPED WATCHING PORN

Ran Gavrieli lives in Tel Aviv and studies gender at Tel Aviv University. He works with youth and adults all over the country in sex and gender studies and in building positive self image in a world inundated by sexual imagery with negative connotations. 

Ran writes and lectures about emotional and physical safe sex; porn and porn-influenced cultural damages; gender and power relations; and sex and intimacy.

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Alex Lerza

My goal as a therapist, speaker and writer is to help people experience the gift of sexual and relational wholeness. Currently I work at Christian Counseling Center in San Jose as a Marriage Family Therapist, Intern. Though I come from a place of faith I have treated clients from all creeds and orientations. I completed my Master's degree from Santa Clara University in 2012. Because I felt called to the area of sexual wholeness I became an Associate Sex Addiction Therapist in 2013. However, I quickly learned that trauma is the cause for a significant amount of sexual and relational brokenness so I also became certified in two trauma-reduction therapies--Affect Management Skills Training and Affect Centered Therapy (similar to EMDR). PSYCHOTHERAPIST. Trauma and Sexual Addiction. One of my passions is to help people break free from sexual addiction and heal from trauma. With hundreds of hours of training in trauma and sexual addiction, I provide clients a clear path out of addiction so that they may enjoy healthier relationships and lead more focused lives. Couples. I love helping couples discover the gift of a healthy marriage. I excel at teaching couples how to communicate, how to heal from betrayal and how to deepen their level of passion and intimacy. Teens. Being a teen is tough. I enjoy helping teens who struggle to connect with peers, have questions about identity or want to kick a pornography addiction. I also run a 10 week program for teen guys looking for a band of brothers and accountability with sexual compulsivity. Individuals. I believe that everyone has something to offer the world that no one else can. I hate to see depression or anxiety limit a person's ability to make their special offering come alive. I offer clients the compassion, tools and strategies they need to make their mark and fulfill their personal vision.

How To Make A Smartphone Contract With Your Teen

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How To Make A Smartphone Contract With Your Teen

A few weeks ago I recommended a book that can act as a guide in parenting digital citizens.  When I stumbled across this mother's thoughtful approach to explaining the use of a smartphone I had to share it.  I invite you to take what's helpful, leave what's not and adapt this contract in a way that makes sense for your teen.

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